Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Mind Over Matter

So here I am sitting in Panera Bread trying to rattle my brain as to what I'm going to write about, I'm here with a friend and the whole concept of relationships comes up.

Hmm, where should I start with this subject, to be honestly I am a relationship type of gal but at the end of the day my independence seems to reign over the whole concept of being with someone, well in this point in time. I honestly haven't been in a whole hearted real relationship in about 2 years but have found random interest here and there but my big question is do we as humans overlook those who really could be our significant other.

I can say I have faced this problem a time or two in my time and always tried to be dumbfounded about the situation and ask myself as to why I would never date these fellows, we all have many complexies about people and one thing everyone has in common is shallowness.

A male friend and I were having a conversation about why people have specific molds that they want their significant others to fit in of course I agree yeah you need to have standards and of course don't settle but perfection is nonexistent.

My friend offered up a very good scenario one that was indepth but hey, let me put into to a nutshell...

Scenario: You have a bangin' ass guy or girl, physically speaking, and this bangin' ass guy or girl good as hell at pleasing you yet you can't have a decent conversation with this nigga or bitch that you some how one way or another are involved with.

Of course the outer beauty, or ugliness [if you will] is what you see first but past that first initial reaction of attraction what do you have. See people have this complex about physical nature and or attraction and I must agree to disagree about those who say "looks do matter". BULLSHIT. It urks me to think people do not see past this complex but hey everyone isn't me. I'm not saying looks are factored out but past the looks where do you go from there..... Of course I am one of those girls who is willing to give a person chance because I am more attracted to the intellect of a guy then their overalll looks because hey I might grow old with this guy, the outer beauty fades away but the intellect of the human brain never demises [unless other complications come along] but at the end of the day people may want to disagree, well a lot of people will disagree with what I'm saying but who cares.

Maybe I'm just one of those people who haven't stumbled over a person who has the looks and the personality. I guess at the end of the day shallowness is a complex everyone falls victim to, even myself but hey I try to avoid it. [yeah I sort of contradict myself throughout this blog but hey I'm trying to make a valid point]

Maybe you should to, because that one that you overlooked might be wifed [hubbied] up by the time you realize...

Good day all.

1 comment:

  1. all i gotta say is i feel you and sometimes the prettiest people do the ugliest things, but I'm not the grounded to the point where I can see me talking to someone hideously ugly. I think I'd be able to talk to a half way ugly person, but not someone who's got the whole shrek look going on, call it what you want, shallow, mean, etc, it is what it is. if you mug, don't give me a hug. peace :-)

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